When we are angry and hurt, we look for someone to whom we can vent, and boy, if they agree with us, watch out! Let the bashing party begin! Who is that person(s) that you go to? Ask yourself, do they produce good fruit? Meaning: is he or she giving you advice and support that are in line with God’s will for your life, or are they leading you down a path of destruction that does not follow God’s will for your life?
He that walketh with the wise man shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Proverbs 13:20 KJV
Walking with a companion of fools is not helpful if you are going to forgive. This will only add fuel to the fire. I can hear you saying now, “I can never forgive!” I thought the same thing. I know there are many of you who have been through horrific and tragic events in your life. I am truly sorry, and if you know me, you would know that I would personally take away your pain from you if I could. The truth is forgiveness sets us free no matter what we have experienced. God’s word has instructed us to forgive our offenders. I see now that one of the reasons we are to forgive is because God doesn’t want to see us held down by the chains unforgiveness keeps us in. He wants to set you free and give you life. That’s what Jesus Christ did for you.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, Just as Christ God forgave you.
I have heard it said that holding on to unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. There came a time in my life when I made a choice: I did not want to stay chained down and drink poison anymore. I wanted freedom.
When I decided to walk in forgiveness, one of the steps that I took was cutting out some friends and even harder, a few family members. “Wow, is that hard.” I also made the choice to stop bashing my husband and others who hurt me because I could not continue to feed the bitterness and hate that the enemy was using to destroy me if I wanted to find freedom in forgiveness. Please understand that cutting them out did not mean I was turning my back on them. It was just time to stop the bashing party. I knew that I had to avoid all negative talk. I began to watch my mouth by no longer allowing myself to verbally express everything that I was feeling especially with people who agreed with me and thought that divorcing my husband was best for me.
If you are ready to walk in forgiveness, today is the day to stop the Hate Bashing and Watch You Mouth.
I encourage you to:
- Get connected with someone in your church that truly loves the Lord and knows His word. This person is going to help you find hope when you feel like there is no hope.
- Think about what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable. When you think of such things, the words that come from our mouths change. This is the best antidote for bitterness.
- Study the promises that God has for you.